If Your Partner Can Pass These 5 “Tests,” Your Relationship Is Meant To Last

Although, if you still get invited, your family must really love you!

If you’re looking for a serious relationship that lasts, you can only hope that the person you’re with is finally it. But how can you know for sure? You can definitely look for signs you’ve found “The One.” But is there any sort of test you can give your partner to see if your relationship is meant to last?

1. The Money Test

Do they fail to tip servers when you’re eating out? Do they like bragging about the expensive things they like to buy? If that isn’t in line with your attitude towards money, you may have incompatible values. Money isn’t everything in a relationship, but it is important. How is your partner with finances? Do their financial goals match yours? If one of you is a spender while the other is a saver, it can be a source of arguments in the future.

2. The Desirability Test

It’s common to feel insecure every now and then, especially if you’re having an off-day. But as relationship expert and author April Masini tells Bustle, if you partner has a way of making you feel attractive and desirable even when you don’t feel it yourself, “they’re a keeper.”

3. The Loyalty Test

If they can make you feel that there are no obstacles to their loyalty, then they’ve passed a test you didn’t mean to give them,” Masini says. It’s important to feel like a priority to your partner, no matter what else they have going on. If they have a way of making you feel like you’re number one, she says, your relationship is good in shape.

4. The Family Test

How does your partner treat your parents? Your siblings? Your best friends? “If your partner goes out of their way to be generous with the people you love, they’re more likely in this for the long-run,” Masini says. But if your partner can’t be nice to the people closest to you, it doesn’t matter how much they love you. “They [might not] have the maturity to tackle relationships of those who will always be in your life,” she says.

5. The “In Sickness” Test

If you’re sick or injured, someone who likes you but doesn’t love you might send you a “Hope you feel better!” text, go quiet for a bit, and then pop up again when you’re back in good health. “They don’t want to deal with the ‘for worse’ part …,” Masini says. But if your partner shows up with cool compresses, aspirin, chicken soup and love — they’ve passed a pretty important test. “Being with someone who’s sick, over the course of a week or more, is really a relationship hurdle,” she says. “I’m not saying you should hang out with people who have chicken pox to infect yourself and test your partner, but next time you get a stomach virus or a bad cold or flu, see how your partner measures up!”

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